New Year, Same Blog
The holidays are over and I have awakened from my lazy food coma. Time to get back to the gym, back to reality, and ready to start a new year. Every new year, I reflect back on what I’ve learned: about myself, my career path, and what I want my future to look like.
If I’m being honest, I had a lot of feelings of insecurity and self doubt leading up to this New Years Eve. As a year is nearing its end, the Instagram world is recapping all of their achievements and special moments. From travel adventures, to new homes, relationship milestones, growing families, career advancements, etc. It’s easy to look at some of these people who have achieved so much in one year and feel that you have fallen short.
I’m not usually one to compare myself to others. At the ripe age of 25, I’ve become self assured in understanding that my journey is my journey. Although I was feeling intimidated by all these recaps, I had to snap myself out of it. I started thinking about my own 2018 recap.
This year was actually a huge turning point in my life, especially in terms of my career. At the end of 2017, I left a corporate job in fashion sales that made me miserable. With no new job to fall back on, I took a break from the corporate world to reevaluate my career. I picked up a retail job at Francesca’s Boutique and decided to start looking for jobs in the styling industry. Being a Stylist has always been my dream job and if I didn’t go for it at this point in time, I never would. I had always been told that a lot of these jobs are either unpaid or pay very little and I was prepared to make the sacrifice. I found a paid job as an Assistant Personal Stylist and absolutely loved it! It was a thrill to work under such an experienced and well regarded wardrobe stylist. I got a firsthand look into this new world that I knew nothing about! Closet consultations in breathtaking penthouse apartments, private fittings at Bergdorf Goodman, lunches with high-profile clients, it was exhilarating! Although this job was filled with new and exciting things, it also had its setbacks. I only worked about 20-30 hours a week and my schedule was unpredictable. And let’s not forget to mention the immense pressure of never being able to make one single mistake (oh yeah, that).
Since this job was not full-time, I kept my job at Francesca’s. I also took the opportunity to pick up an unpaid job working as an Assistant Editorial Stylist. As much as I loved personal styling, I was thrilled for the chance to work with designers and take part in the creation of magazine editorials. To me, that was the dream. Much to my surprise, I quickly learned that editorial styling is NOT for me. I was beside myself. My dream job, what I thought would be my calling, it made me miserable. When they say the fashion industry is not as glamorous as it seems, they’re talking about editorial styling. The pressure, the hours, and the labor, everything a stylist goes through just to have his or her name attached to a project. That’s right, even when you make it big as an editorial stylist, most of the work you do is unpaid. I have so much respect for those who sacrifice everything for the art. While I would not like to work primarily as an editorial stylist, I am still open to opportunities. Over the years I’ve worked on a few fun projects with some close designer friends!
Walking away from my dream job was gut wrenching; It felt like giving up. It took me a while to realize that I didn’t walk away empty handed. I walked away with the power of knowing what I wanted (and didn’t want). That, in itself, was my biggest accomplishment of 2018. If I had never taken the opportunity to go for my dream job, I wouldn’t have learned that it was the wrong path for me. Even if I were willing to dedicate my life to an equally demanding and non-lucrative profession, it just wasn’t good fit. Editorial styling is very artful, rather than practical, and I am no artist. My fashion philosophy is much more practical and constructive. I would rather help others build their dream wardrobe (and get paid handsomely), than style a magazine ad that most people will skim right over. Working in personal/wardrobe styling was a much better fit for me. I attended client appointments, coordinated schedules, returns, and alterations, and I even picked up a few clients of my own! I’ve been a stylist nearly all my life, for my sisters, cousins, friends, etc. But 2018 was the first year I actually got paid for my fashion advice! Since I decided to leave my job in editorial, I started to further my personal styling career by becoming a digital stylist on the Tailor app! Tailor is a free app powered by Google that allows anyone access to a digital stylist right at their fingertips! I still work with clients on weekly basis through the Tailor app.
A few months down the road, balancing these three jobs was starting to get overwhelming. My inconsistent schedule was driving me crazy! I would commute into the city for my styling job, work nights and weekends for my retail job, and try to squeeze in as much time as I could for my clients. I knew I couldn’t keep this up forever. After I felt I had gained the necessary knowledge in personal styling, I left both of my jobs and decided to get back to the corporate world (I know, plot twist). This was not an easy decision, but like I said, I’m a very self assured person, I always trust my gut, and I stick by every decision that I make. I wanted to be sure that my next corporate experience would be a happy one. I did not want to end up like my 2017 self. I also really wanted to start working on Long Island because the NYC commute was killing me. My biggest fear was that jumping back into corporate life would defer me from working towards my dreams of becoming a stylist. To my surprise and delight, my stable schedule has allowed me the perfect balance of my 9-5 and my 5-10 (which is when I work on being an entrepreneur.
Since October, I have been working as a Business Development Coordinator at leading eyewear brand, Luxottica, and I am happier than I’ve ever been at a job! I am using both analytical and creative skills, I have an extremely supportive team, travel opportunities, a short commute, free lunches, and a perfect work/life balance. I don’t know how I got so lucky to be part of such an incredibly thriving organization. I could go on and on about how much I have been loving this job, but instead I will dedicate an entire post about it in the future.
Outside of career achievements, 2018 was also the year that I visited my dream destination of Southern California (Venice Beach, Santa Monica, & San Diego), celebrated 8 years with my boyfriend, Kevin, saw Luke Bryan and Brad Paisley for the first time in concert (and Sam Hunt for the 4th time hehe), spent another incredible summer on the beach, and developed my perfect skincare routine! How’s that for a recap?!
I might not have gotten my own place yet, or a ring on my finger but I’m more than okay with the pace that I am living and learning. Now that you’ve read (or didn’t read) my annoyingly long 2018 recap, here is a short list of things to coming to BBB in 2019!
coming to bbb in 2019
1.More long island settings
Since I no longer work in NYC, I am booking more Long Island shoots. It’s my home and I’m so proud to be from here. Long Island is a place where you have access to endless beaches, New York City, beautiful farmlands, and wholesome suburban neighborhoods. We truly have it all and I want my readers to see how special my home is. Also, our pizza and bagels are better than NYC!
2. More Personal Posts
This year, I plan to open up a bit more on the blog and let you guys in. This is really not an easy thing for me. Mostly because I’m a private person and also because I just don’t have the time to keep you all up to date! I hope you guys will enjoy learning more about my life! Here’s a little preview:
My family is loud, crazy, fun, hilarious, and filled with love. I have three older sisters (Melissa, Kristen and Lauren) who were all incredible inspirations to grow up with. We are all so different yet so alike! One minute we’re screaming at each other then the next, we’are laughing. I always get the best reactions from you guys when I post stories with my crazy Italian family!
I’ve been dating Kevin for more than 8 years and as you might have guessed, things are getting pretty serious. We are always down for a little fun & adventure, and a lot of cozy Netflix nights. Kevin is my biggest supporter and has never made me feel the need to be anyone but myself. I can always count on him to come to my rescue and when I’m upset with him he genuinely listens and tries to understand my point of view. He has a world of patience for me, and I him (because sometimes he is an annoying shit lol). But he’s my annoying shit and I love him.
3. More Style Tips
The reason I started blogging was to share my personal styling tips, and I can’t help but feel that I haven’t been living up to that initial purpose. Remember when I launched my segment #BBBStyleReport and literally never made another style report post again? Not to worry! The 2nd BBB Style Report is underway and it’s called “What’s in my Capsule Wardrobe?” This year, I plan to make BBB a home for style tips and wardrobe building.
4.(hopefully) higher quality content
I used to have my photos professionally edited, but ever since I had my own preset created by Laurel Creative, I’ve been editing all my photos myself. Sometimes I post a photo and I look back later and totally regret the way I edited it. I’ve been spending a lot of time using LightRoom and PhotoShop and working on my editing style. I am hoping I can really bring it with the content this year!
I hope your New Year is off to a great start! Keep staying in touch ❤️